Motherhood & Identity: Reclaiming Yourself Through Scent
The transition into motherhood is profound. It can also often be accompanied by a reevaluation of your identity. I know when I was pregnant with the twins, I was so worried about just getting them earthside safely. I didn’t really think about what it would be like once they actually were. While the joy of nurturing a new life is unparalleled, many experience a sense of loss concerning their pre-motherhood selves.
Thats why it is so important to continue engaging in personal rituals, such as fragrance. This can serve as a powerful tool in reconnecting with your individuality during the postpartum period.
The Postpartum Identity Shift
The three month period postpartum, often referred to as the "fourth trimester," is marked by significant physical and emotional changes. New mothers may grapple with feelings of identity loss as they adjust to their new roles, their new life. This phenomenon, sometimes called the "postpartum identity crisis," can manifest as a sense of disconnect from your former self and a struggle to integrate the maternal identity with pre-existing personal identities.
The Role of Scent in Personal Identity
Scent is deeply intertwined with memory and emotion. A familiar fragrance can evoke vivid recollections and feelings associated with past experiences, effectively bridging the gap between your past and present self. I know when I spray a particular sunscreen on my kids I’m immediately taken back to the last holiday we were on and using it. I know when I smell the body wash I used when I was in high school, I’m taken straight back there (heaven forbid).
In the context of motherhood, continuation of a personal fragrance can serve as a comforting reminder of your individuality beyond the new maternal role. Moreover, selecting a new signature scent during this time can symbolise the integration of motherhood into your evolving identity, marking a fresh chapter in life.
Psychological Benefits of Fragrance Use
There has been a few studies into how incorporating fragrance into daily routines can offer psychological benefits that support maternal well-being, heres the low down:
Mood Enhancement: Certain scents have been shown to influence mood positively. For instance, citrus notes are often associated with increased energy and uplifted spirits, while lavender is renowned for its calming effects.
Stress Reduction: Aromatherapy, which utilizes natural plant extracts and essential oils, has been recognized for its potential to alleviate stress and promote relaxation. Engaging with pleasant scents can provide a moment of respite amidst the heavy demands of motherhood.
Mindfulness and Presence: The act of applying fragrance can become a mindful ritual, encouraging mothers to take a brief pause for self-care, thereby fostering a sense of presence and grounding.
Considerations for Fragrance Use During Postpartum
While the use of fragrance can be beneficial, it's essential for postpartum mothers to consider the following:
Sensitivity of Newborns: Newborns have a heightened sense of smell and may be sensitive to strong fragrances. Opting for subtle, natural scents can minimise potential discomfort for the baby. at De(ux) Mains we offer a lighter option, an eau de vie, for this reason.
Ingredient Safety: Selecting fragrances free from potentially harmful chemicals, such as phthalates and parabens, is crucial. These substances can disrupt hormonal balance and may pose risks to both mother and child. Choosing products with transparent ingredient lists and natural compositions is advisable.
Personal Comfort: Hormonal changes during the postpartum period can alter scent perception and personal preferences. Mothers should choose fragrances that they find personally comforting and non-irritating.
Integrating Fragrance into Postpartum Self-Care
To effectively incorporate fragrance into postpartum self-care routines:
Select Meaningful Scents: Choose fragrances that evoke positive memories or feelings, reinforcing a connection to your personal history and identity. De(ux) Mains focuses on soft, feminine scents. This time could also be your new “meaningful” time, something to take you right back to those first smiles, first giggles, first steps.
Establish Rituals: Apply fragrance during specific moments, such as after a shower or before bedtime, to create intentional self-care rituals that provide structure and a sense of pre-baby normalcy.
Use in Moderation: Apply fragrance sparingly to start, to avoid overwhelming both you and your baby, ensuring a nice experience for you both.
The mindful use of fragrance can be a valuable tool for mothers seeking to reconnect with their sense of self during postpartum. By finding something that you love and incorporating it into your daily self-care practices, mothers can navigate the complexities of their evolving identities with greater ease and confidence.
Understanding the potential benefits of natural fragrance and the hidden nasties in traditional fragrance empowers mothers to make informed choices that support both their own well-being and personal identity.
